Jo Barnett, a dating coach, tells me: “I don’t think it’s racism. You’ll get people who say, I don’t like red-heads, or I don’t like short girls, skinny girls… But when I’m coaching someone, within reason I’ll get them to look beyond that.” More than anything, she just thinks it’s a “shame” that people could be missing out on relationships because of their narrow viewpoints, or insecurities.She tells me that she’s noticed many men choosing to date white, skinny women who are either blonde or brunette: “Some guys want candy on their arm.It’s similar to how Sarah feels: “I can understand people making cultural assumptions, but in a dating context it seems to be purely objective.They’re just making judgements based on your looks.” Is that OK?All designed to make your online asian dating experience the best there is on the net.Asian Free And Single is a part of the Free And Single group, one of the UK's most trusted online dating companies.Barnett isn’t sure – “it’s a tricky one.” Neither is Sarah, or any of my other friends.
[sic] Obviously you don’t have the same level of education.And not wanting to date you doesn’t make me racist. “In other words, you’re not good looking enough for me. Please try to find a guy in your league.” Apart from being astoundingly rude, this man (who deleted his profile after I tweeted a screenshot of his messages) brings up the question of whether racial bias can be classified as racism.Is it the same as just not fancying blondes, or is it racist?The website looked at research from five years ago - which showed most people prefer to date within their own race - and compared it to current data. According to OKCupid, Asian and black men receive fewer messages than white men, while black women receive the fewest messages of all users.
Christian Rudder, the site’s co-founder, says: “OKCupid users are certainly no more open-minded than they used to be.
Last week, she received what, to me, is an explicitly racist message.